Wednesday, February 22, 2012


Indeed having lost a Mother is really painful. I have experienced that even more when my Mother was taken away from us. She died when I was just 19.

The feeling of deep miss and longing of Bobbi Kristina to her mother, Whitney Houston is a normal reaction of a child who undyingly long to have the care of a mother especially now that Whitney is gone. I can see in Bobbi’s appearances that she is really affected of the loss of her mother. Probably, no one wants that Whitney’s life would end abruptly. Even me, I was shocked and still can’t believe that she is totally gone now.

There are reasons that all these things happen. There is a purpose for its existence and termination. The answer lies ahead for Bobbi’s life and for the rest of Whitney’s family.

The feeling of losing someone especially when the person taken is a member of your family is so unbearable to accept. But time heals as what they said. There is its mutuality.

I understand that Bobbi is in the process of coping with the change of her life especially that her mother is not anymore, personally with her.

As I cope with the lost of my mother, it took me almost many years until I understand the purpose of her disappearance in our lives. It is just on the first and the very moment of the instance, I want to get mad and burst like a bomb in tears every day. But now, I was able to accept the fact that God showed me the purpose of her lost. Though there are moments, many times indeed, that I questioned about her dying and why God let it happen.

As I strive to live my life, those pains and tears are converted into lessons and understanding the myriads challenges which can do it myself, alone, of not being dependent. I am learning to maneuver life independently. I become mature and open-minded to things. Whenever I heard of dying and I have seen those teary eyes of the people, I can say in silence that they will surely know the reason why such reality happens.

For me, the purpose of life is to learn from everything. Learning accompanies wide acceptance and understanding, embraced in trust and determination to do better and to do the best in whatever ways that life leads a person. It is not because that one dies and now is gone, the life of the other who is living also terminates. Life should always go on no matter what consequences and circumstances may be.

Life displays lots of lesson and to live with it, one should atone to heed in doing the good ways all the time.  

That is why, for Bobbi Katrina, life goes on. This too shall pass and I know someday she will understand that God puts meaning in her life.  She will surely find it.

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